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Wednesday, January 15, 2025

A Guide to Dialectical Behaviour Therapy for Rape & Abuse Survivors

“Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. It shows you have the courage to admit when you don’t know something, and to learn something new.”

Barack Obama

*Please note: this article is not to be used as an alternative to professional help, support, guidance, and Therapy*

In 2012, I (Campaign Founder, Aimee) made a suicide attempt which saw me end up on life support and when I woke up, I was detained under Section 3 of the 1983 Mental Health Act and admitted to a psychiatric hospital. The hospital was over 100 miles away from home and specialised in my diagnosis at the time of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), which meant that it facilitated the recommended therapeutic treatment for the Disorder; Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT). Typically, it takes 12 months to complete a cycle or course of DBT, but my mental health had been poorly for quite a while, so I ended up actually being sectioned and undergoing DBT for two and a half years! So, after our Social Media Assistant created content on dissociation – which DBT has helped me to stop using as a coping mechanism – I was inspired to put this article together where I’ve trawled through the entirety of DBT to share with you all the most relevant and appropriate skills and techniques to support the mental health of survivors of rape and abuse…

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Sunday, December 22, 2024

Why Self-Care is So Important to Rape & Abuse Survivors | Including An Etsy Gift Guide | Merry Christmas 2024

For Christmas this year, the Shake My Hand Campaign wanted to put this article together with a quick discussion on why self-care and self-love is so important to everyone, but particularly; to survivors of rape and/or sexual abuse. The post will also include a gift guide of items from Etsy UK which we would recommend as being great for self-care – for full disclosure, this gift guide is not sponsored nor commissioned in any way. We hope that it inspires you to treat yourself to a little something that will help you to feel even just a little bit better…

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Monday, December 9, 2024

One Attribute & Skill I’ve Found Important in Moving Forwards After Rape & Abuse By Campaign Founder, Aimee Wilson

“Every setback might be the very thing that makes you carry on and fight all the harder and become much better.”

Les Paul

Some of Shake My Hand’s most popular content on our social media channels (@shakemyhandUK on Twitter and Instagram) are when we post practical skills to help you cope with different difficulties you might face in the aftermath of rape and sexual abuse. So, with that in mind, as well as a recent achievement of my own in allowing my GP to conduct a personal examination, I was inspired to write this piece about a practical attribute and skill that I have personally found important in moving forwards from the rape and abuse that I experienced as a teenager. Now, I’m in no way saying that this is essential or fundamental; just that I found it to be really useful in my own recovery and in the process of taking steps forward instead of back…

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Thursday, November 7, 2024

Finding Strength After Rape & Abuse

With the definition of ‘strength’ including ‘being physically strong’ and having the ‘capacity’ to ‘withstand great force or pressure’ this seems to include the two largest references to strength that would come in rape and sexual abuse. The physical strength of the abuser or rapist to commit their actions and the emotional strength of the survivor to overcome this traumatic experience. But we wanted to focus on the strength that is used to not only overcome the trauma, but also to continue with life after doing so…

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Friday, November 1, 2024

“Bravo Madame!” | Everything You Need to Know About the Mass Rape Trial in France

Today, we wanted to discuss the trending news story about the French mass rape trial; in which 51 men are facing a maximum of 20 years in prison after being put on trial for rape by Gisele Pelicot. The 71-year-old retiree’s ex-husband has admitted to drugging her so that men – who were recruited online – could rape her whilst she was unconscious. This trial has shed light on various issues including the fact that French Senator; Melanie Vogel, proposed changing the legal definition of rape over one year ago. With the global significance and vast media coverage of this trial in mind, the Campaign team wanted to publish this article discussing everything around the trial in more detail as well as providing our thoughts on the case. If you find yourself triggered or struggling from this article, please see our Help Directory

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Friday, October 25, 2024

Why We’re Endorsed by Waythrough

You may have noticed a new part to the part of our website which was previously called ‘Commendations’ – it now reads ‘Endorsements and Commendations!’ This change/addition is a result of the Campaign earning its first organisational endorsement from the wonderful, lifesaving charity; Waythrough. So, to celebrate, we thought we’d put together this little article about why the endorsement came about…

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